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crime, martial-arts, rape, self defense, sexual assault, violence
| A conversation regarding self-defense and the question of whether an active defense vs. compliance with the assailant would improve the odds of survival |
The office didn’t seem like the place to share my opinions on this topic, so I thought I would present my arguments as a special post for my esteemed readers.
Note: This is written with the assumption that the would-be victim is not carrying a concealed firearm due to poor judgment or legal constraints they are unwilling to ignore.
Our office Martialist correctly asserted that:
- The survival rate for abductees is really small
- The survival rate for victims of gunshot and knife wounds is pretty high considering modern trauma care.
With many documented cases of the first point, compliance seems like a guaranteed loser, so the decision to run, or fight at the initial contact with the bad guy makes sense. You won’t get any more dead at the scene of the assault than you would be later, but the “later” may be a long, unpleasant time coming.
The lessons I taught the Wrench Maiden early on were:
- You never know when the person next to you is going to decide to have a bad day and share the experience with those nearby.
- Watch what is happening around you, and DON’T be afraid to be impolite. (A lot of women are way too nice.)
- If things seem sketchy, feel free to leave the area abruptly.
- If someone intrudes on your space, a loud “Back off!” is often the best and most appropriate response.
A person trying to murder you with a gun can stand well outside of arm’s reach to do it, BUT distance is on your side. Criminals are not known for marksmanship. If you hear a news story about a shooting, compare the number of rounds fired to the number of casualties (killed or wounded). The hit rate is really low.
Lesson: Run laterally to the gunman’s line of fire and try to put something big and concrete/brick between the two of you. The lateral movement is harder to track than running directly away. The critical point is MOVE. Get out of the area. Check yourself for injuries you might not have felt. Call 911.
A person trying to rob/abduct you must get very close to do so.
If its a robbery, give up your car or throw your junk on the ground, and run. All of that property is replaceable.
If it is an abduction attempt or assault with a hand weapon, and you cannot run, it is time to create Hell in a very small space.
This means ANGRY screaming, striking, biting, clawing, kicking, stomping, etc. ad nauseam.
Angry is the key. Angry is empowering.
Fear is very helpful. It tells you something is wrong. Embracing Fear brings with it feelings of weakness and despair.
Anger says, “This is NOT going to FNG happen to me!”
Try it for yourself. Say it out loud like you mean it. You’ll feel the adrenaline kick in.
Abduction Mechanics:
A person trying to abduct someone by physical force must use their hands to control that victim. This means their hands are not available for anything else.
If the abductee must be lifted off the ground and carried, the kidnapper must use a lot more effort AND spend extra strength to adjust their balance to account for the additional burden.
The abductee they are trying to move is not under these limitations. They have their hands, feet, head, teeth, elbows, and knees to thrash around with. This violent movement increases the abductor’s balance problem.
All of the thrashing could cause the abductor to drop the victim or possibly to fall down themselves offering the victim a chance to break free and run.
If the victim can find some soft fleshy bits, they can be pinched, crushed, bit, gouged, and hit repeatedly. If a joint is accessible, it can be attacked interfering with the kidnapper’s balance or possibly causing the kidnapper to drop the victim.
Key Thought: He may have hold of me, but now his hands are busy, and it’s MY TURN!
Thoughts on Techniques:
Martial Arts teaches the practitioner to move in prescribed ways while concentrating on performing the movement. This instills a level of focus on what is happening during that moment in time. Dojo sparring translates that focus into a high-speed version of tag. This is useful, but because you are not really trying to hurt your opponent, it limits your “creativity” is target selection and how hard you can really hit them.
When fighting for your life, you are hitting as hard as you can as quickly as you can until your opponent falls down and you can escape. That’s it. That’s the only thing that matters.
My favorite technique for untrained people is to strike with the pinkie side of a firmly closed fist. This is usually called a “hammerfist”, and this blow delivers solid impact with minimal chance of injury to the hand.
Targets are the bridge of the nose, collarbone, temple, side of the jaw, Adam’s apple, genitals, or my fave, the side of the neck where it meets the shoulder. The neck shot works like this.
You can also strike with the back of the hand, but you risk cutting your knuckles on the opponent’s teeth.
Extending the thumb across the top of the hammer fist makes a good gouge to apply to the eyes, throat, armpit, sides of the neck (see above), and inner thigh. Get in the soft spot and really DIG FOR GOLD. If one spot isn’t working, go for another.
If I can grab the fingers of one of my opponent’s hands with both of my hands, I can pull hard sideways, and rip the web of skin between the fingers. Maybe I dislocate or break the fingers as well.
Elbows are very useful. Use the “front” of the elbow and strike with the ulna bone. Striking with the humerus side risks hitting the funny bone and paralyzing the arm. Sometimes required, but that is a risk factor. Put your hip into the swing for added force.
Targets are the same as the hammer fist, plus the sternum/solar plexus and back of the head where the spine joins the skull. If you are quick and flexible, you can apply this to the inside of the knee.
These are preferred techniques because they are simple, instinctive, and leave your feet firmly on the floor. Kicking and sweeping attacks with the foot can be useful, but balance and mobility are far more critical.
All of these techniques are intended for use at bad breath distance. If your opponent falls on you, and you end up on the ground, they are still effective. Just keep going.
If you can add something moderately heavy (beer mug, sturdy water bottle, folded mini-umbrella) or sharp (pen, hair stick, rat tail comb, screwdriver, knife) to the hammer fist, the game changes dramatically.
All of the above represents a mindset. The goal is to get you thinking about options for dealing with a situation nobody ever wants to face.
Sometimes the best option is to run.
Sometimes you give up your car, or throw your purse on the ground.
Sometimes you just have to get REALLY nasty.
OR, maybe you pull out a can of pepper spray, and in the sage wisdom of John Correia, “Bless the deserving with the hot sauce.”
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